We circled around each other for a couple of years. We were in the same group of friends & we did a lot of theatre projects together. He says that the first time he saw me, ironically his wife pointed me out while I was crossing near them in a restaurant, he knew at that moment that I was the ONE. I didn’t much care for him at first, actually. He was devastatingly handsome & jaw droppingly talented. He possessed a painful shyness that manifested itself as being cold & aloof. We very slowly started to become friends. I remember once being in the parking lot of a theatre where we both were employed , & my saying- “it is too hard to reach you. It is not worth it. You are too much trouble to try & be friends!" I was trying to reach him. It was not easy... but we slowly started to connect.
He had come by my apartment on the pretense of working on some theatre stuff. I was so in love with him at this point that I couldn’t breathe in his presence. For about 6 months, there had been some little signs. Our fingers would linger while passing a joint. We would catch each other in a sustained glance. I was thinking of moving to another city because I could not stop thinking about him, Day & Night. Night & Day. He was all I could think about.
On October 9th, 1979, in the late afternoon of a beautiful autumn day, we told each other that we were in love with each other. With uncustomary restraint, we waited 24 hours to be intimate.
I am going to admit that it has not always been smooth sailing. The last 3 years have been particularily rough, often because of my boorish behavior, but not exclusively my fault. But the fact remains, the best times & the happiest times, the most magical times & the times I have been most content, have been made more so, because I shared them with my Husband. I have spent half my life with this man. Today we start our 31st year as a couple.
This is what was playing on the stereo on October 9th, 1979, as we admitted that we were smitten with each other: A Little Touch of Schmielsen In The Night by Harry Nielsen
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