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The Husband & your host, when first we met

Dearest Readers,

Do I ever thank you enough for taking a look at Post Apocalyptic Bohemian? Having this little spot on the Internet brings me palatable pleasure. I feel more authentically myself when I am sharing my stories & reminding all of us of the contribution of those judged as queer through human history. I appreciate that you stop by.

Today marks the 32nd anniversary of your host & the Husband as a couple. We were married on our 25th anniversary, October 9th 2005, in Vancouver BC. The traditional gift for a 32nd anniversary is an automobile & for a 7th anniversary, wool or copper, your choice. Perhaps a knitted car would work for a combined choice for the 2 occasions.

My closest circle, including my spouse, have voiced concern that I am too candid on Post Apocalyptic Bohemian, yet my life is an open book & I wouldn’t have it any other way. Some incidents have been condensed for a shorter reading experience & some names have been changed to protect the innocent.

1979

Relationships sometimes take work & a marriage is an especially formidable entanglement. I don’t think I would do it again & I hope I don’t have to.

Postings about my husband, on his birthdays, on his art openings, & design triumphs, have elicited lovely comments from readers about how lucky I am, & notes such as: “I would love to have a husband someday”, “I think I will always be alone”, “It’s just me & my little parakeet”. I feel twinges of guilt about how people perceive our relationship. It has not been all hearts & flowers. 2 years ago, I was certain that we would not be celebrating the 31st anniversary of being a couple. The roughest of times in our relationship have been in the past 4 years & it is mostly, but not exclusively, my fault, often because of my boorish behavior: drugs, booze, adultery, money issues. The problems & events that drove us apart were not mundane, but rather sensational & very dramatic.

I am not certain what brought us closer together in the past year, except that possibly our love is incontrovertible, indubitable, infallible, & irrefutable after all. When our alliance was at its weakest, I had suggested that we go back & attempt to revive the friendship component. We have always been best friends to each other.

2009

The fact remains, the best of times & the happiest times, the most magical times & the times I have been most content, have been made more so, because I shared them with my Husband. I have spent more than half my life with this man. 4 cities, 6 dogs, a near divorce, & yet today we start our 33rd year as a couple.